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Thursday 26 September 2013
Thinking about leaving your country? Read this first
I saw this article online and I kind of agree with the author. He raised very serious points for potential immigrants and Africans in the diaspora to consider.
Thank you author,these are reality but if ask to make a choice again I will still choose to live in the USA if not for anything for my kids,hospital used to be second home before coming here but since I came a year my kids have not had hot temperature.in terms of education,to get a good school in Nigeria you have to pay through your nose but now my 6yrs old son in grade 1 can beat a primary 3 in Nigeria.food stuff are very cheap and there are food programs for kids0-5 where I live every month.in nig we could barely save even with my husband bank job.you fuel your generator,bad roads,insecurity,joblessness.exobitrant school fees.the secret here is to stay focus,don't because your friend buy a 2013 toyota you want to buy too.if you don't get entangled in credit card debt,you live within your means then you don't have a problem.then get educated,the more educated you are the better.america isn't rosy but when are focus and patient then the sky is your limit.
I agree with everything you said expect the 6 years old in grade 1 can beat a primary 3 in Nigeria. I politely disagree. These are my reasons:
Children abroad starts school from age 4 in pre-school, and it depends if they are born before or on the month of September 1st which is the school calender year. If the child was born after that date, he/she would continue to loss a year.
4-5 years is in pre-school. 5-6 years in KG. 6-7 Years in grade 1 7-8 years in grade 2 8-9 years in grade 3 9-10 years in grade 4 10-11 years in grade 5. 11-15 years in middle school.. 15-19years in high school.
Preschools draw, color, recite poems and trace letters, numbers and use the computer to play. and bring story books home to be read to them. In some states they spend only 3 hours in class, like Texas. They have morning and afternoon session. 7:45A.M-10:45A.M and 12P.M-3:00PM. In some states like NY, 7:45AM-2:45P.M.
KG, recite poems, draw &color, trace letters, numbers, use the computer, bring story books home for parents to read to them and the book log signed daily. They resume 7:45AM-2:45PM
When my child was 6 years old in Nigeria and in primary 1, before relocating, she can write and read and it was not an expensive school she attended. My 6 years old abroad in KG cannot read [he was born after September). They trace A-Z, and 1-10 and their names. While in Nigeria, my 6 years could write 1-I00, spell 2-3 letter words, read simple stories with assistance with the pronunciation.
The advantage children abroad have over children in Nigeria is the exposure. They have access to computers and lots of books and creative arts. The system of teaching differs.
What I mean is that my 6yrs can communicate with big words that a nig primary can't used like you rightly said,it's the exposture,he start 7.45 and closes 3.45.
Ok, i understand. Yes, they are quickly exposed to big spoken words from their teachers and story books. For instance, he is taught A for Astronaut who flies to the space, unlike A for apple as taught in Nigeria. U for underwater, with plenty of fishes, unlike umbrella. Thank you.
People should weigh their options and make their decisions with objectivity. If you have it good in Nigeria, go for visits and studies only, if otherwise, relocate legitimately with working permit.
I know of a guy is in the process of divorcing his American wife because it was a' recipe for matrimonial mayhem' as the writer said. A pastor is marrying the second time, because the first marriage for paper did not pass the interrogation at the embassy. He is hoping the second one would work out without hiccup. Another couple agreed the man should divorce her and marry an American for paper. The morals and tenets of marriage is trampled upon here in the course of survival.
BUT, Diasporas should STOP passing the wrong message home with their lavish spendings when they come back for holidays and exaggerated statements on fb, twitter, whattsapp and sending all those pictures of mortgaged houses and cars on loans and once in a blue-moon outing pictures!
I personally avoid these pitfalls, and advised my spouse strongly to desist from talking too much , so as not to pass the wrong impression. We struggle from paycheck to paycheck every month. My life here is much better than when i was in Nigeria, because no so much pressure on me, i feel peaceful and contented, though i might have just $100.00 in my account, i am not bothered, unlike in Nigeria i would have 50k, and still be worried.
This article really got me thinking... am a young unmarried girl, and often I dream of meeting my knight in shinning armour who will take me away from Nigeria and i'll get to post those beautiful pictures like I always see on facebook. I've grown a lot over the years, after getting my law degree and passing the Nigerian Bar, I see prospects in this country, don't get me wrong I still desire to travel out of Nigeria but not d way I used to. I want to get a good job here that will expose me to a lot of travels and I'll also love to go on vacations someday with friend's and family. This article really got me thinking... life is really not that bad here. having to be a second class citizen all ur life can't be better than being a first class citizen in your home country. 20- 30 years from now, God willing I know i'll be a "big woman" one of the "big oga's" cos I've got dreams and this is a country where dreams come true(believe it or not). If I "check out" like the writer said, in 20-30yrs time i'll have classmates who will be Judges, senior advocates of Nigeria, captains of industries and seasoned politicians and i'll be in one oyibo man's country saying see my classmates oo! In all may God's will be done in my life. *sexy lawyer*
I like the article very much except for the part where he wrote,'.........and even Ghana,Ghana?...wat the hell was he trying to say,dat our country isn't a place he expects Nigerians to be? Is Ghana not a travel destination? Wats dis rubbish?
This is total crap Y discourage others from coming here too? See a typical African mentality you came to the US but others shouldn't abi? WTF u talking about those in aNaija will receive benefit when they are old and those that were here won't get ryt? U are a big fool. I don'thave tym to go into details but for me I'm here and whenever the fuck I'm really to leave to Ghana my beloved country I would. People don't be deceived and yeah of course American life is different from the life in Africa didn't you know before coming or were you kidnap here???
Thank you author,these are reality but if ask to make a choice again I will still choose to live in the USA if not for anything for my kids,hospital used to be second home before coming here but since I came a year my kids have not had hot temperature.in terms of education,to get a good school in Nigeria you have to pay through your nose but now my 6yrs old son in grade 1 can beat a primary 3 in Nigeria.food stuff are very cheap and there are food programs for kids0-5 where I live every month.in nig we could barely save even with my husband bank job.you fuel your generator,bad roads,insecurity,joblessness.exobitrant school fees.the secret here is to stay focus,don't because your friend buy a 2013 toyota you want to buy too.if you don't get entangled in credit card debt,you live within your means then you don't have a problem.then get educated,the more educated you are the better.america isn't rosy but when are focus and patient then the sky is your limit.
ReplyDeleteSorry to ask o but are u educated???
DeleteNo am not,clap for yourself!!!
DeleteNawa oh, I've started to hv a re-think.
ReplyDeleteI agree with everything you said expect the 6 years old in grade 1 can beat a primary 3 in Nigeria. I politely disagree. These are my reasons:
ReplyDeleteChildren abroad starts school from age 4 in pre-school, and it depends if they are born before or on the month of September 1st which is the school calender year. If the child was born after that date, he/she would continue to loss a year.
4-5 years is in pre-school.
5-6 years in KG.
6-7 Years in grade 1
7-8 years in grade 2
8-9 years in grade 3
9-10 years in grade 4
10-11 years in grade 5.
11-15 years in middle school..
15-19years in high school.
Preschools draw, color, recite poems and trace letters, numbers and use the computer to play. and bring story books home to be read to them. In some states they spend only 3 hours in class, like Texas. They have morning and afternoon session. 7:45A.M-10:45A.M and 12P.M-3:00PM. In some states like NY, 7:45AM-2:45P.M.
KG, recite poems, draw &color, trace letters, numbers, use the computer, bring story books home for parents to read to them and the book log signed daily. They resume 7:45AM-2:45PM
When my child was 6 years old in Nigeria and in primary 1, before relocating, she can write and read and it was not an expensive school she attended. My 6 years old abroad in KG cannot read [he was born after September). They trace A-Z, and 1-10 and their names. While in Nigeria, my 6 years could write 1-I00, spell 2-3 letter words, read simple stories with assistance with the pronunciation.
The advantage children abroad have over children in Nigeria is the exposure. They have access to computers and lots of books and creative arts. The system of teaching differs.
What I mean is that my 6yrs can communicate with big words that a nig primary can't used like you rightly said,it's the exposture,he start 7.45 and closes 3.45.
DeleteToo Much error in my reply.
DeleteOk, i understand. Yes, they are quickly exposed to big spoken words from their teachers and story books. For instance, he is taught A for Astronaut who flies to the space, unlike A for apple as taught in Nigeria. U for underwater, with plenty of fishes, unlike umbrella. Thank you.
DeleteThis is a very sincere article.
ReplyDeleteBut how many would believe or accept it?
People should weigh their options and make their decisions with objectivity. If you have it good in Nigeria, go for visits and studies only, if otherwise, relocate legitimately with working permit.
I know of a guy is in the process of divorcing his American wife because it was a' recipe for matrimonial mayhem' as the writer said.
A pastor is marrying the second time, because the first marriage for paper did not pass the interrogation at the embassy. He is hoping the second one would work out without hiccup.
Another couple agreed the man should divorce her and marry an American for paper.
The morals and tenets of marriage is trampled upon here in the course of survival.
BUT,
Diasporas should STOP passing the wrong message home with their lavish spendings when they come back for holidays and exaggerated statements on fb, twitter, whattsapp and sending all those pictures of mortgaged houses and cars on loans and once in a blue-moon outing pictures!
I personally avoid these pitfalls, and advised my spouse strongly to desist from talking too much , so as not to pass the wrong impression. We struggle from paycheck to paycheck every month. My life here is much better than when i was in Nigeria, because no so much pressure on me, i feel peaceful and contented, though i might have just $100.00 in my account, i am not bothered, unlike in Nigeria i would have 50k, and still be worried.
This article really got me thinking... am a young unmarried girl, and often I dream of meeting my knight in shinning armour who will take me away from Nigeria and i'll get to post those beautiful pictures like I always see on facebook.
ReplyDeleteI've grown a lot over the years, after getting my law degree and passing the Nigerian Bar, I see prospects in this country, don't get me wrong I still desire to travel out of Nigeria but not d way I used to. I want to get a good job here that will expose me to a lot of travels and I'll also love to go on vacations someday with friend's and family.
This article really got me thinking... life is really not that bad here. having to be a second class citizen all ur life can't be better than being a first class citizen in your home country. 20- 30 years from now, God willing I know i'll be a "big woman" one of the "big oga's" cos I've got dreams and this is a country where dreams come true(believe it or not).
If I "check out" like the writer said, in 20-30yrs time i'll have classmates who will be Judges, senior advocates of Nigeria, captains of industries and seasoned politicians and i'll be in one oyibo man's country saying see my classmates oo!
In all may God's will be done in my life.
*sexy lawyer*
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ReplyDeleteI like the article very much except for the part where he wrote,'.........and even Ghana,Ghana?...wat the hell was he trying to say,dat our country isn't a place he expects Nigerians to be? Is Ghana not a travel destination? Wats dis rubbish?
ReplyDeleteDon't mind that fool gal even stupid Nigeria people travel there so what's wrong with PEACEFUL GHana?
DeleteThis is total crap Y discourage others from coming here too? See a typical African mentality you came to the US but others shouldn't abi? WTF u talking about those in aNaija will receive benefit when they are old and those that were here won't get ryt? U are a big fool. I don'thave tym to go into details but for me I'm here and whenever the fuck I'm really to leave to Ghana my beloved country I would. People don't be deceived and yeah of course American life is different from the life in Africa didn't you know before coming or were you kidnap here???
ReplyDelete