Today is one such day. I was watching a program about relationships and cheating and it got me thinking about my own experience.
I entered the university fresh, young and naive, and I didn't know much of the world. Prior to entering the university, I had a very sheltered life and I was very ignorant about men issues. I loved to fall in love, and when I did, I definitely fell with all my heart.
In my first year in the university, I met a level 400 guy who expressed interest in me. We soon became friends and it was not long afterwards that he started telling me about his past relationship. Apparently he had been dating his ex for 3 years and he did every thing possible to make her happy. He was very much in love with her. According to him, their relationship came crumbling when out of the blue, the girl confessed to him that she had cheated on him. He told me he tried to forgive her, but he just couldn't get past the thought that another guy had enjoyed her so he broke up with her. He proceeded to tell me how the girl had a bad attitude, and was a serial cheat and so many other unmentionable things.
You see, I knew a thing or 2 about players, and this guy definitely didn't fall in that category. He didn't smoke or drink, he didn't party,he was an Economics student as I was,and most times we would go study together,He just seemed like a really serious student. In my mind he was a good guy as he didnt indulge in any of the activities that bad boys do. At this point he had asked me to be his girlfriend and with his past in my I was determined to be the best girlfriend ever to him.
You see, I knew a thing or 2 about players, and this guy definitely didn't fall in that category. He didn't smoke or drink, he didn't party,he was an Economics student as I was,and most times we would go study together,He just seemed like a really serious student. In my mind he was a good guy as he didnt indulge in any of the activities that bad boys do. At this point he had asked me to be his girlfriend and with his past in my I was determined to be the best girlfriend ever to him.
That relationship was like a 3 people one, because this ex in question was always in the picture one way or the other. I saw love text messages exchanged between the two of them. There was an instance where I went to visit this guy in his room and after knocking, the said ex girlfriend opened the door. She then started shouting and warned me to leave her boyfriend alone. Some friends of mine who were in the same hall of residency sometimes reported seeing the 2 together. Even with all these evidence, my heart was still set on him, and he had an explanation for any scenario that involved the girl. For instance, when I cried out to him that I found the girl in his room , he explained that when they were dating she had an extra key to his room and she didn't want to return it. The naive me always believed every explanation he gave me.As shaky as our relationship was, it still went on even after he had completed school.
He started his National serving with a bank and there was this time that his bank was having a program at the Mall. He called me and asked me to come see him, and I told him that I had a lecture and that I would come as soon as the lecture was done. Fortunately for me, that lecture was cancelled so I made my way to the mall. I kept calling him, and his phone was switched off, but I decided to go anyway since he told me his bank would be there all day. As soon as I got to the mall, I saw the car of his ex girlfriend parked and instantly a certain kind of fear gripped me.Now I knew the car because the make and color was very distinctive. Maybe it was just a coincidence. Maybe she came to the mall to do her own thing. All this while I was still calling him and his phone was still off. I entered the mall and I found the stand his company had set up. I greeted the guys there and asked if they knew my boyfriend. They replied in the affirmative and I asked of his whereabouts and they replied that he had received a visitor and was at the parking lot. At that instance I knew, but I wanted to confirm because I knew my boyfriend had a way with words I walked quickly to the spot I found the car, and there they were talking and laughing like best friends catching up. As soon as the guy saw me, he got out of the car,and started questioning why I was there. The girl also got out, and she started saying things I cant remember now. All I wanted was for the guy to leave with me, but he didn't, instead he vanished into thin air. The next thing, a security guard came over and asked me to come with him. He took me aside and told me not to worry, and that the guy did not deserve me. At this point I was on the verge of tears, and I was so ashamed of myself for what had just happened. Above all I was heartbroken, and I just didn't want to accept that this guy was not who he claimed to be. I couldn't even move around because my eyes was heavy with shame, I felt betrayed and and empty inside me. The world around me looked dark to me. I called my roommate to come pick me up from the mall.
After this incident, my eyes were a bit opened but I still gave him the benefit of the doubt. He told me after he called me, he didn't think I was going to come and it was just afterwards that his ex called him. He said the fact that they had broken up didn't mean he couldn't talk to her, and that he met her up because he was just being nice.I made myself believe him.
You know I was in the same hostel with the girl and I was always running in to her at one time or the other. The was this time that i saw her wearing an arsenal jersey with my boyfriends name on it, and when I questioned him, he told me his sister had stolen it from him and given it to the girl since they were very close friends.
The last straw was when one day I called one of his numbers only for the girl to pick up.At that very moment, I realized how much of a fool I had been and it was as if something had been removed from my eyes which made things clearer to her. I spoke to the girl very calmly, and requested we meet up so I can really know what was going on. She told me of how they had never broken up, and yes she had cheated on him but he accepted her back. And she said they guy was always complaining about me to him, and that I was always following him around . To her I was just some girl who was worrying her man. She also told me the guy had given her his SIM card, as a token of his commitment, and that he wanted her to trust him. I also realized that, the same way he was trashing the girl to me was the same way I was being trashed to her. The girl apologized for every thing and told me she knew the kind of guy he was, because he had tried 'talking' to one of her friends.
After the meeting, I sent him a message that I had spoken to the girl, and that I knew everything. I ended the relationship and started a difficult journey of deleting him from my memory. It was not an easy one, but I came out a stronger person. I learnt so many lessons about love, most especially about how to study a guy before giving your heart away.
As for the guy, he started contacting me 3 months after I sent the message, begging and crying about how sorry he was, and how he had changed into a better man, and that I should give him another chance. But you know I had healed and I had moved on.My heart was closed to that chapter in my life
Have you ever been heartbroken? How did you deal with it? have you ever broken another person's heart? Why caused it? How has that experience changed you?
hmmm 3y3 as3m.it was very difficult for me too.crying everyday, missing some lectures.had to actually discard some things he gave me to help me move on.and of cos i have moved on and met a better person.
ReplyDeleteThe only real timei came close to being heartbroken was with my university sweetheart. lemme start my own story here, i met charl in 03 becos i had a clique of friends in school tht we use to chill @ d basketballcourt together, we wld play bball, yap people, gist n all, itwas almost christmas and i brought up the idea that we should have a clique christmas thingy.
ReplyDeleteWe gathered to disucss how much we wld each contribute and i teased charl about paying for my own share, which he did o, dat was the start of our friendship dat led to a 2 year relationship. we cld seat for hours n gist! damn we wld gist about anything. after sometime i got real involved in school things, student leader, basketball team, dance n drama group, my dept association pr person, i was everywhere and he started complaining i didnt have time for him, dat was lie cos even after my endless meeting i d still seat with charltill 2 am gisting.
i went away for 2 weeks for Nigerian university games in 03 and i started hearing gist all the way in Port-harcourt of whom my boyfriend ws hanging with, he had an accident broke him arm and startedcussing m out that i m never around whn he needs me.
so he took comfort in ds new babe thatjust enetered school, he did it s shamelessly that i wld be seating n waiting for him and he wld tell me hewas coming and wld gon chill with the oda babe. i complained n complained and he stopped hanging with her and started with another girl, it became a cycle, he wld be close toone babe, i d complain, he s cease and get close to anoda, even one of my close friends was sorta involved with him.
one day he told me he wanted a break, i agreed instantly cos i was tired, real tired and den hesaid he needed to restructure his life alas he was seeing someone else. The thingy pained me ehn and i decided to move on, he noticed i wasnt attentive anymore andhe asked me what was up, i said we ve brokn up nau and he said no oo, he just wanted a break.. what the heck i the bloody difference??? anyhoos told him i had enuf and i was seeing someone else.. guess what til today h still calls and says he wishes he didnt act up and wants me back.
i m just over that mehn! phew.. that was long. i should do a proper relationship post on my blog..
Jay!
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Eh ya,sorry oh. These men are sumtin else I tell. Nigerian guys have to be just the worst of them though,heartless and mean...beleiving that cheating is their right! As for me,I have always jealously guarded my heart cos I no wan suffer at all. The closest I ever came to it was with a guy my friend introduced me too. The guy was actually her cousin and he told her he was looking for a nice decent,educated woman from his part of the country he could av a relationship with and possibly marry,so my friend introduced me to him and we got talking for about a month. We finally met when he came to visit me in maiduguri where I was doing my national youth service and we hit it off. So we started dating,bt right off I sensed he was really being totally honest wit me abt some things. For one,we lived in different cities and he worked in another city. But when I would want to visit him,he would always make up an excuse or another(he was goin for training,he was goin for a burial etc) so he always came to see me. Anyway,fast forward a year and half later and a friend of mine who worked with him in the same company calls me to tell me that do I know my boyfriend is getting married to someone else and they had been invited as colleagues. I almost passed out when he told me that. So I didn't say anytin(he was outside the country on training so I clnt call him)and he calls me a week later to ask for my forgiveness cos he had done sometin very wicked to me . He had been seeing this lady who he used to date and now lives in the us,and they had already gotten married and were coming to do their traditional marriage next month(that was the I.v my friend got). He didn't know my friend had already told me so it wasn't such a shocker to me. What shocked him was the way I handled it....I just said 'hey,its ok. No problem. I wish you all the best of luck in the marriage. Have a nice life'. He was so shocked and guilty. I later heard that his wife put to bed some month later after the marriage,so she was already pregnant before they got married. I took it all in good faith and moved on with my life. I really did love him though and was already dreaming of a future wit him,but wat can a woman do than to just cry and move on and hope for better luck next time? Men are wicked I tell u. So now,I no dey love again oh. Just pallning to marry a guy I can be friends with and can respect and hopefully live in peace with him.
ReplyDeleteOh so sorry. But I guess you have learnt a lot and for one you would pay attention to your instincts when you feel something is not right
DeleteEh ya,sorry oh. These men are sumtin else I tell. Nigerian guys have to be just the worst of them though,heartless and mean...beleiving that cheating is their right! As for me,I have always jealously guarded my heart cos I no wan suffer at all. The closest I ever came to it was with a guy my friend introduced me too. The guy was actually her cousin and he told her he was looking for a nice decent,educated woman from his part of the country he could av a relationship with and possibly marry,so my friend introduced me to him and we got talking for about a month. We finally met when he came to visit me in maiduguri where I was doing my national youth service and we hit it off. So we started dating,bt right off I sensed he was really being totally honest wit me abt some things. For one,we lived in different cities and he worked in another city. But when I would want to visit him,he would always make up an excuse or another(he was goin for training,he was goin for a burial etc) so he always came to see me. Anyway,fast forward a year and half later and a friend of mine who worked with him in the same company calls me to tell me that do I know my boyfriend is getting married to someone else and they had been invited as colleagues. I almost passed out when he told me that. So I didn't say anytin(he was outside the country on training so I clnt call him)and he calls me a week later to ask for my forgiveness cos he had done sometin very wicked to me . He had been seeing this lady who he used to date and now lives in the us,and they had already gotten married and were coming to do their traditional marriage next month(that was the I.v my friend got). He didn't know my friend had already told me so it wasn't such a shocker to me. What shocked him was the way I handled it....I just said 'hey,its ok. No problem. I wish you all the best of luck in the marriage. Have a nice life'. He was so shocked and guilty. I later heard that his wife put to bed some month later after the marriage,so she was already pregnant before they got married. I took it all in good faith and moved on with my life. I really did love him though and was already dreaming of a future wit him,but wat can a woman do than to just cry and move on and hope for better luck next time? Men are wicked I tell u. So now,I no dey love again oh. Just pallning to marry a guy I can be friends with and can respect and hopefully live in peace with him.
ReplyDeleteYou can never know who is reading this so I wnt use names.I met this particular guy in a strange way,I was in 200 level in school then,(I am now in my final year)and he was donw ith school but not donw with his project,so he hung around to complete it.one day I was in my room,(I live in a self contain apartment in school and have no room mates nd etc.)He called me nd introduced himself,he said he comes to the gym close to my hostel (u call the single rooms hostel,cos they are built 4 students,even if its off camp) and he saw me drying my clothes on the line.then,he asked a guy that stays around for my name and number nd the guy told him my name but didn't have my number.
ReplyDeleteThe guy promised him that he would help him get my number and after 2days,the guy gave him my number.he said pls if not 4 nything I shld try nd see him,bcos of the stress he went through to get my number(what stress?).anyway,after about. week,due to my busy lecture schedule and all,we arranged a meeting.I told him I only wanted to see his face cos I didn't have much time that particulr day I was going 4 a class.we met somewhere on my way to school.he was tall,physically fit and really attractive.for a man. I on the other hand with am 5'8" but I looked short beside him.he was the defination of cute.I on the other hand am beautiful,I do not like handsome guys cos of thier "shakara",I believe that a woman needs to be fine and that's all. anyway,he escorted me to my faculty nd I mde a mental note to see him again.
The next time I saw him,it was more of a date,because I was not rushing to go anywhere.I DO NOT VISIT GUYS IN THEIR ROOMS IN SCHOOL,I dunno y I went to his room.anyway,he was the first guy that has not tried to touch me when we were alone 2geda.that gave him a pass mark in my good books.I guess that was what blinded me,lol.well,I slept off,woke up,he served me lunch,nd later saw me off back to my room again.
I wanted to see him again.he started coming to see me frequently in my room.and a friend of mine commented that we look so good together,like beyonce and jayZ or even better,he was obviously the cuter version of jayZ.nyway,I didn't know when we started dating.he told me bout his ex,but that nothing serz led to their breakup.my own ex was a fool!
We dated for 3 months.it was rosy.rosy nd rosy.we popped wine,went on dates,I stopped cooking with crayfish cos he was allergic to it.we were always together.I told him everything.my best friend became "our best friend" everything was fine fine.I told my sisters bout him,nd hoped they wld meet him someday.I never saw ny text on his fone or warreva.everything was okay o...until!
We spent the night 2geda,eating suya nd drinking red wine.the next morning,he woke up,and told me,he wanted to end the whole relationship cos he had emotional problems.(By then he was done with his project nd moving out of schl in a couple of days).I was like WHAT??????.it wasn't a joke oooo!
He was dead serz,I askd him what was wrong,he refused to tell,I begged,I pleaded,I crieeed!in fact,he left me crying.no hug,nothing!I didn't eat 4 3 days,I sent my friend to his house to beg him,she went there nd knelt down 4 him(now we laff @ our stupidity) I told him dt I cldnt cope dt I wld give nything to b with him.I begged nd begged.4 a whole month I was crying.
Now its 2 years later.I have the best relationship in the world.guess who wants to come back into my perfect life? He said he had no reason 4 doing wht he did,nd he was stupid.I'll rather date a dog,than date an unstable minded,guy.
That was a scary something!
Well, am in my final year in school and I met this wonderful guy on bbm (I sell wears and shoes so he got my pin and added to get a shoe from me) although he didn't later get the shoe and he was on my bbm contact. He saw a funny pics on my dp and that was how we started chatting and for a month we chatted and all.he asked me out on bbm but I told him that we need to sit down and talk. A friend of his was having the naming ceremony of his first son somwhere around my school so he tld me and I felt it was a good location to see him since its closer to me and open. So I met him and I liked wt I saw. Tall, dark and handsome and he immediately introduced me to every1 as his girlfriend, I even saw his mom @ d party.he told me about his ex gf, the girl stys in the same estate with him while I stay in anoda town and he even told me he always return the girls call anytime she calls and the girl still visit his sisters their house because there friends.I felt insecure but we continue.I visited him like twice and I noticed he introduce me briefly like I was just a normal friend, 2wks afta he had a small accident and he told me not to bother coming to the hospital or his house that he will be fine.well, cos I was a pharmacy student and load of practical for me to deal with, I stayed back in sch.later he called me that I sud give him a break that he needed to get over the accident and he's not in the right frame of mind for a relationshp.mehn, I cried all night because I was already seeing my future with this guy. For 2wks...I stopped calling him tinking I will get over it but I wasn't mysef. So I called his friend to talk to me. The friend didn't get back to me. 2wks later, the friend called and told me that he's back with his ex that I should get over it.for 4mths now, I still wish to be back with this guy. Anytime I see his pics, I feel lik getting him back.I cald him recently and he tld me dt he neva loved me that he told he's gonna build up feelings in the course of the relationship. Can u imagine #hehehehe#. Am sure he said that just to make me let go of him. I pray I get over it soon.
ReplyDeleteI love this blog and I feel relieve as I pour everytin out
Don't mind my typo..can't recheck #lol#
Free him and I can bet u he wil run back begging they always do yeye men
ReplyDeleteSigh!..I met this guy on facebook ,he was so sweet ,and it seemed like the real deal. I feel hopeless in love with him .I gave him my all, was faithful to him, sacrificed so many things for our relationship..although we were in a distance relationship he called Me every day(mornin and nite)to know how I was, he was the sweetest thing ever,gentle,loving,kind and always willing to listen to me. I felt so lucky that I had found my Mr right and there was no turning back...after months of dating on phone ,we decided to met, I travelled all the way to see the love of my,our first meeting was magical, I felt secured and totally in love with him. He introduced me to all his friends and family. ..I even called all my friends, telling them I have found the one. I took to my bbm to boldly profess my love to him(I guess that was my biggest mistake ).after spending weeks with him and so much in love, I had to go back to my station,i was so sad eh*lool..a week after I left I got a call from his supposed girlfriend, calling me a sought of names, I was so broken, I cried my eyes out. He called to apologise ,saying the girl was his Exand I was the one he truly loved, she mumu me, I actually believed him and accepted him back.. after that call my ones sweet love ,turned to someone else ,he stopped calling frequently and found fault in every thing in said or did. I kept hoping that he would come around eventually.then he started making excuses not to come and see me, I said no p ,lemme come over then, the the many excuses *you know am working on my transfer, so am not stable now, I have to travel This weekend blah blah blah. . it do happen that a friend was going through my pictures and saw him, and was like you know this guy? I was like yeah he is my boo*ode ni*and the rest was history. .I cried that day eh ,and took make matters worst he wasn't remorseful @ all,.I mean how could he make me fall in love with him, when he knew he wasn't ready...I have tried moving on But is not easy at all.,I find myself not trusting guys again. .I really want to find a good man, but I keep holding back, how do I over come this phase in my life?
ReplyDeleteYou would find that man that would knock you off your feet again, only that this time, it would be the real deal because you would have learnt how to differentiate between the fake and the real.
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ReplyDeleteI m still looking for a pill 2 cure heartache.. Sometym ago we ended a relation of 2+ yrs (my frens says it's nt a relation at all). N u knw hw it feels. So, i started reading vigoriously every single blog spot 2 keep myself occupied n thats hw i passed ur blog. However, i hv learnt many things.. My story is also quite similar to urs (the gf whom he loved dearly cheated on him, hard 2 4give the gf blah blah) however the only difference was he wants 2 take revenge on all woman folk. Luckily i escaped 4om his clutches. N m happy now. I just hope all is well 4 him as well as the other gals he is eyeing on.. Sometyms its hard 4 a man to 4give a cheating gf n try 2 find solance in thinking that revenge is the only alternative which is equally dangerous!
ReplyDeleteHmmmmmm guys will always be guys ooo. I have known this guy for almost 5years. We have been friends for this long but we both know we have feelings for each other however we've been avoiding it. Last month I was home and this guy invited me to a program n I accepted to go with him. Last month I was home minding my business n I got a text from this guy to come out cos he is waiting for me in front of my house..Being exited and all I went out to go see him. Luckily I didn't have to do much in terms of dressing cos I was still in my church clothes so I was looking good...lol.We went out for ice cream n on our way back he asked me what kind of feelings I have for him...I was too excited that at long last he has gathered the courage to ask me out but a part of me wanted to play dumb so instead of answering his question...I asked him Mr y don't u start telling me what feelings u have for me. He parked his car and looked at me in the eyes and said don't be scared to tell me the truth. I laughed and insisted he tells how he feels so he ended up saying I shld go think abt it and he will come for the answer the following day. Came ho.e very happy that I get to express my feelings the following day.2days passed n he didn't come n kept on saying is cos of work. He sent me a text the 3rd day inviting me to a program n since I needed to see him I accepted to go with him. Minutes after my confirmation text to go with him, he sent a text saying he will be coming with another chick....to be honest I pissed but I played it off n said cool. U know with that girl in the car there is noway we are having this relationship talk so 2days later I was burning inside to let everything out so I sent him a text that I need to see him...Is there that this guy had the nerves to ask me what do I think abt the girl we went to the program with....I almost cried when reading the text. I replied saying ...ooh she is iight. He goes I asked her out yesterday..my heart jumped and all I cld say was wooooow, up until now I still think abt it but am trying so hard to get over it now. Am almost healed, lol. My question y did he ask me that question if he knew the answer wouldn't matter anyways?Long#story#sorry#for#typo.
ReplyDeleteWow! I'm reading all the stories here with shock!
ReplyDeleteGod have mercy on us with regards to relationships and heartbreak.. One thing I have realised though is that the men who did those things are not worth the tears and heart-wrench sown.. The best thing you can do for yourself is to move on! (in style too, by God's grace) - *I speak to myself*
I had my first heart break in secondary skool. Ss1. My very first b.f he was In ss3. After his WAEC he traveld to lagos for holiday while awaiting his result.I stayed back, love sick ,writting him letters and sending them to him tru Nipost lol.when d results of my promotional exmas came out I was told to repeat ss1.obviously I wasn't reading, I spent all my time dreaming of my love and writting love letters. Smh. Well wen d bobo returned,after some months he broke up wiv me, dis was after gaining admission into d university (big boy) ah!not minding that he deflowerd me. I was soooooooo heartbroken. I couldn't eat, sleep, thinking wan kii me, I spent my time writting love letters dat neva got to him. D annoying part was dat every time I saw him I would feel butterflies in my stomach. I felt heart broken for over a year. Till I left second skool I stayed away from boys.
ReplyDeleteMy 2nd dissapointment "I like to call it that" was in d university I met this guy, we started as friends though, then we started dating. Wit dis guy I experienced somany things I've neva experinced before, we had mind blowing sex "I neva liked sex, infact I had problems wiv my x's before him becus they complianed I neva liked it. Buh wiv him it was differnt. Apart from d sex, he was so romantic, he was like a brother, he was him self, neva shy to show me off to his friends, I could cum and go to his house as I pleased.( He stayed in his parents house here) buh his folks and elder ones stayed in d uk.
A year latter his elder bro came to naija. (I neva met him though)I barely saw my bf that period, he kept saying he was bizzy, his elder bro won't give him chance bla bla bla. Even aftr d guy left.I sensed something was wrong.
Buh he kept saying there was nothing wrong,cuz he was always bizzy, neva taking my calls like before. Buh I strted hearing stories that he was seen wiv a particular girl. @ clubs and parties. I wasn't d clubbing and party type. Infact 7 o'clock no dey reach me outside. That time. He denied it wen I asked him,
Very easily he would get iritated @ my presence. Ha! He wouldn't let me come witout calling. One day he emabarassed me in his friends house.when he left, d friend also confirmed wat I hrd. It turns out wen his bro came, they toured d town, clubs, bars he met d girl tru one of his elder bros girlfriend.
I broke up wiv him he came begging I let him back in 3 times buh finaly dumped his sorry arse!
D girl dat was making him maltreat me finaly left him for a "bigger guy" lol. Any way while I was nursing my broken heart, I met my hubby, @ a friends house wia I'd go to lament. I dated him as a rebound Oo°˚˚˚°! But d guy came wiv trailer full of love lol. So if u've sufferd heartbreak don't give up u'll surely find tru love I assure u! E go be u like film Oo°˚˚˚°! Xoxo
D ache I felt in my heart wen that guy was misbehaving words can not express! I would cry Oo°˚˚˚°! My hubby didint hear word about my ex nau! He kept saying my ex didint deserve me and all that.my hubby used to tell me some guys would have left me since I kept lamenting over my ex! Any way till tomoro that my ex keeps telling people he doesn't know what got into his head Oo°˚˚˚°! Bla bla bla! That I'm d only decent girl he has dated.and he regrets loosing me. He just got carried away because d other girl looked flashey and all that. I invited him for my wedding,buh he didint cum, I ensured to give his friends and couzins who came for my wedding his own souvenier. Lol So neva give up u will surely find love again.
ReplyDeleteHey na wao! For the record shall, I never had heart breaks, instead I broke guys heart a lot oh... I remember one guy I told that he was just a fling! My longest relationship was 10mnths, and was a distance relationship. The guy was a big guy in shell and I was just a lil babe who knew her rights. Before he said jack.. I told him jackpot! Till now, all my ex, respects me anytime any day.. The funiest thing is thay still call me. Some are maried with kids like me, they just can't blive the fact that a woman can be so fast to dump a man the way I did them.. I dnt quarrel with them b4 the breakup, that's what amazes them except the one I had to put in jail for hitting me.. I was tough and beautiful, and my mom was very scared for me, that I can't stay with a man. Thank God it's been 4yrs of peaceful married life! Ladies, the signs are very clear, stop allowing yourselves to be ridiculed... Be the one to act fast, and the pain will be less or not even experienced. Be wise!
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imet this guy and after two months of dating he
ReplyDeletei met this guy and after two months of dating he fell terribly sick i was scared because he was a foreign student but i took responsibility of him and got him well with money meant for my tuition.soon after he recovered, i went for my field trip i came back only to realize my sweet guy has changed into his true self-an opportunist and a chronic womanizer.he kept avoiding me for months even when i was sick.finally i tracked him down only for him to break up with me.that night he said that, i felt so cold, as i have never felt in my life to the extent that i shivered uncontrollably.i do not hold it against him for breaking up with me but the coldblooded look in his eyes and the painful words he used so remorselessly.sometimes its the wrong persons that get the best of us and the right ones less since we put our guards up in order not to be hurt again but it shouldn't be so cause if you have not been burnt by fire, how will you know the soothing effect of water?i have met a warm and loving man whom am so i tune with life life is just wonderful as it should be.
ReplyDeleteKnowing how us men are promiscuous and jealous at the same time, i would have thought...that since u r in a "marriage", you would never talk about ex ex ex...unless your hubby is fine with it
ReplyDeleteJust my thoughts anyway!